Hey Fellas! This one's for you. I got the ladies straight. Now, I have a question for you. I asked the ladies, Are you a wife? So you are probably thinking I’m going to ask you a similar question by asking, are you a husband? But nope!
My question to you is, are you a man?
The Bible says in Proverbs 18:22, “a man that finds a wife.” It doesn't say, a husband that finds a wife. It says a man!
Are you a man? I'm not talking about in age. I know society declares you a man once you turn 18 but that's not so in God's world.
I'll prove it. Paul said in 1 Corinthians 13:11, when I was a child I thought like one, I talked and behaved like one. But when I became a man, I put the childish stuff away (emphasis added). Notice, he didn't say when he became 18 or when he became 21. He said when he became a man. He's talking about maturity, not age. Are you a man fellas? Are you mature or are you still being childish?
In other words, there should be some maturity in your manhood before you pursue a wife.
God is saying a mature man finds a woman who is already a wife. He marries her to make her his wife, not make her a wife.
Why didn't God say a husband that finds a wife? Why did He use the word “wife” for the woman but used the word “man” for the man?
I'm sure there are many reasons, but I believe one main reason is because the function of being a husband is to be the head of the household. Before God created Eve, he spent time with Adam. He gave Adam his assignment, he gave Adam his responsibilities, he gave Adam instructions and directions for life on earth.
God made Adam a priority by creating him first. God gave him his position and his purpose before Eve was thought of.
God built inside of a man, everything needed to lead his family.
God downloaded many things to Adam before Eve came on the scene.
This is a big responsibility because God purposed the man to be the head which means he’s responsible and accountable for his family. Whether he wants to or not, whether he likes it or not, whether he agrees with it or not, it’s a purpose given by God. Nothing or no one can alter God’s purpose.
This is not an elected position or social expectation. It’s not a position made because men are big or strong, it has to do with God’s purpose. Position comes with purpose. If you are a man, you have been charged by God to be the head of the home and lead your family under the leadership and lordship of Jesus Himself.
That requires a level of maturity.
Another reason why I believe God used the word, man and not husband is because a part of God’s purpose for the male-man is to be a support to his wife. It takes maturity to handle the weight of a real woman. I’m not talking about just any woman. Some women are all over the place and unstable. But I’m talking about a women who is solid, stable and secure, a woman who knows who she is and where she's going. A woman that’s fully packaged, batteries included.
It takes a mature man to know what to do with a woman of wisdom.
It takes a mature man not to see a woman as a threat.
It takes a mature man not to be intimidated by a weighty woman.
So fellas, you have to grow up, develop and mature in your manhood before marrying.
