Not only is there a Covid crisis, there is a connection crisis.
Society has become so technology driven that the art of relational connection has been lost. That movie Social Dilemma is real. Go watch it if you haven’t seen it.
You ever met someone who tried to get to know you through electronic communication? I mean their text messages are whole paragraphs. I don’t know about you, but I get annoyed.
I have had this experience. Then the person got mad when my responses were hours later and short. It wasn’t intentional, but I’m busy and I don’t have time to be texting paragraphs. However, I’m willing to make time if someone wants to connect and chat. I mean we can say in 20 minutes what it would have probably taken hours in text.
A lady I worked with was into the online dating thang and why I let her talk me into doing it. She went as far as setting up my profile. She said, “watch Gwen, as soon as I finish you gonna get all kinds of messages.” She was right, I did!
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not against online dating, I know people who met their spouse online and they are happy so do ya thang!
No judgement here.
I’m just speaking from my personal experience, I could not get with it. It was like the guys didn’t know how to have a conversation and it turned me all the way off. And then too, I could not get with the messaging back and forth. I don’t have time trying to get to know someone thru email messages. I mean can we chat on the phone or meet for coffee? You know like coffee and conversation, can we do that? I’m sorry, I just couldn’t get with it. I like real conversation where we connect and chat in real-time.
If one of you know a better way, hit me up and help a sista out cause it just didn’t work for me. I was joking with God and said, it just be my luck God have me meet someone online. God has a sense of humor like that. I need help because I was just turned off with the online dating.
We are social creatures and we were created for connection.
This is why we crave community. There are 3 levels in which we connect with others; spirit, soul and body. So our interaction is three dimensional. We interact on a spiritual level, we interact on an intellectual level, and we interact on a physical level. Spirit, soul and body...you with me?!!?
The first and most important connection is your connection with God. As we connect with God spiritually, we connect with others on a spiritual level.
Your connection with others should flow from your spiritual connection with God.
Then the next level of connection should be intellectual. This connection involves your personality and relationality...can’t leave that out. It involves your interest, desires, motivations and purpose. This level of connection is based on who someone is and not based on what they look like or what they do.
The next level and least important of connection, is physical. Society makes the physical the priority but it shouldn't be. They make it all about the physical by focusing on physical attributes instead of character and internal qualities.
This level is what gets people in trouble and they get entangled with wrong relationships. They plunge ahead and get into a relationship based on the physical and then find out later that they aren't on the same level spiritually and intellectually.
You shouldn't connect with someone physically without first connecting with them spiritually and intellectually.
The bible says Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. So someone can appear harmless outwardly but be inwardly harmful.
Its so much pressure and temptation today, especially with the young people, to jump to the physical in a relationship. Everywhere you turn it’s all about the physical. They end up with deep emotional involvement before taking the time to find out whether or not they share similar views and values of life. By the time they find out they don’t, it be too late because of the emotional entanglement. That emotional entanglement makes it hard to break off the relationship. They end up frustrated, miserable and broken.
Connection is necessary for any healthy relationship.
It should first start with being connected spiritually and intellectually.
