Everything starts with a belief system. What you believe, you will think and what you think, you will do. The Bible teaches us in Proverbs 23:7 that as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.
So this tells us that every action starts with a thought. Which is why Paul tells us in Romans chapter 12 verse 2 to renew your mind. He shows us that transformation is linked to your thinking. He tells us to be transformed, and the only way that will happen is by the renewal of your mind.
Transformed thinking is what brings about a transformed life because your behavior responds to your beliefs.
There is a faulty belief that there aren't any good men or any good women left. Having that belief system leads people into desperation. As the saying goes, desperate people do desperate things. Some people have made dating decisions out of desperation because of a dysfunctional belief.
I had a client who was dating a guy but he wasn’t really dating her. A lot of that is happening too. I say that because she was committed to him but he wasn’t committed to her. Certain days she wouldn’t hear from him. He would come around, then be MIA but then act like it was the norm. He was leading her on in one way but then treating her in another way. It was very dysfunctional and unhealthy. Her emotions was ah wreck, not just from what he was doing but but because she had a belief system that she was running out of time because of her age. She made a comment to me saying that in our area the ration of men-to-women was like 10-to-1...so that’s 10 women to one man.
I shared with her that God is not limited to our area so he’s not the only single man in the world. The enemy will use a faulty belief system and play on your mind with it. He’ll say things like, “this is your only chance or this is the only person out there,” and when you believe that, you will settle. My client settled for something that was bad for her. She eventually cut it off. A few years later she met someone that treated her in every best way possible and guess what? He was from another state. He was not even from our area and they are now happily married.
God does not want you to settle for a bad relationship.
He wants you to have the best relationship. But you gotta want it for yourself and it starts with your belief. You have to believe that you are worth it. You have to believe for the best because you are the best.
You have to change your belief system that you have to settle for whoever comes your way or believing that this person is the only one left.
The devil is a liar!
You have to change your belief that there aren’t any good men and women because there are. God always has a remnant. So there’s a remnant for relationships. A remnant is an elite group of people who are in right standing with God. They are aligned to God's plan and purpose for their lives. They have spiritual foundation and substance. They are the real deal. They don't just talk it, they walk it. I mean they go hard for God. They are out there.
There may not be any in your community, there may not be any at your job, there may not be anyone where you hang out, there may not be any in your surrounding areas or state. But they are out there. They can be in another state or country. God will make a way for the connection like he did for my client. But it wasn’t until she changed her belief system and stopped dating out of desperation.
There are some healthy, single men and women left. All men ain’t broke. There are millionaire men but they don’t want a broke woman. All women ain’t crazy and insecure. There are some secure, submissive women out there but they don’t want ah rich fool. When I say rich fool I mean a man who may be financially stable but unstable in his senses. In other words, he doesn't have much sense.
If you have a limited belief system that there isn't any left, you will date out of desperation. There's a whole world out here so why limit yourself to just your jurisdiction.
Making dating decisions out of desperation is dysfunction.
So many people settle and decide to date and marry out of desperation. Desperation should be geared towards deliverance so we can get rid of stinking thinking. David said in Psalm 37:25, “I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread.”
When you date out of desperation in essence you are behaving like a beggar. Beggars settle for anything they can get. You are not a beggar, you are a blessed son and daughter of God. The bible says righteousness was counted unto Abraham because He believed God. You are the righteous of God and you are Abraham’s seed which means his blessings are your blessings. So you are not a beggar, you are a born-again believer! You are a blessed son, you are a blessed daughter.
Stop reducing yourself for a relationship. God will not forsake you. You don't have to be desperate for a date. You don’t have to go through hell to have health. We’ve been redeemed from that curse of unhealthy cycles. There is a destiny date for you to meet your ministry mate.
Be patient and wait on the Lord in expectation, not desperation.
