God created everyone for a purpose. Through the prophet in Jeremiah 29:11 KJV God said, “I know the thoughts and plans I think towards you to give you a future and a hope.”
God has a plan and purpose for your life.
In other words, God has already decided your destiny. If you look in the Word of God, you will find that God chose people for His purposes. Thus, who you choose to date should be planned and purposeful.
When you don’t know the purpose of something, you will end up abusing it even without trying. The bible says in Philippians 2:13 KJV, “For it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose.” God has a purpose concerning love and dating and it needs to be understood.
Dating to get married outside of God’s purpose will not succeed.
Some believers date so they can get married for sex or because they want status. This is not God’s purpose for marriage. Knowing the purpose of something is very vital because its purpose is what will determine its design. When you know the purpose of dating you will design the relationship based on what is needed for purpose.
Dating has a purpose. That purpose is to build friendship that will help you to discern a destiny partner for marriage. Dating has a destiny and its destiny is marriage.
Dating should not be for entertainment. Dating should be planned and purposeful. Purposely and purposeful dating will help you not to be like most people today who just get married.
You won’t just get married, you will be prepared for marriage.
Also, you want to date someone who is suitable for you. A lot of times we look for compatibility but the bible says in Genesis 2:18 KJV, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
Suitable, meaning someone who is fit for purpose. In other words, they have the necessary properties and they are sufficient for purpose. Someone compatible is someone who you may be able to get along well with, y’all have fun together, and y’all may interact easily with each other but that doesn't mean that that person is suitable for you.
I’ve met guys who were compatible, I mean they were cool and fun to hang out with and we got along easily. But as far as dating for the purpose of marriage, I had to turn them down because they were not suitable for me. They wasn’t fit for purpose.
I’m not just a woman, I’m a woman of God and I’m a business woman. So for me, a suitable guy would be one that can handle all those areas of me. The bible tells us that the gift and callings are without repentance. That means God is not going to change His mind about your call and purposes. God is not going to change His mind about you just because you get married. You still will be held accountable for fulfilling your purpose, married or not.
So it’s important you choose wisely by choosing someone that can complement your call. Someone who will cover and undergird you. They don’t have to have the same ministry call or the same gifts.
However, they have to be like-minded, be secure and not intimidated.
Date someone who is suitable for your destiny. You want a partner who is suitable for your purpose. For example: If God has purposed you to Pastor, your partner doesn't have to have the same ministry call and they don’t have to be called to the office of a Pastor, however, that person needs to be able to comprehend all that comes with the office of a Pastor.
The point is this, whatever God has called and commissioned you to do, you want someone suitable that will support you in it and not sabotage it.
Every partnership should have a purpose.
So it’s okay to ask the person, why should I date you? You want someone who can cultivate what you are carrying and not crush and/or curse it.
