Have you ever had someone say something to you that was truthful or possibly meaningful but you weren't receptive to what they said because of how they said it?
Sometimes it’s not what you say, but how you say it. Ladies, how you dress is an expression of your spirit and soul’s DNA.
What do you want your soul and spirit to say?
What you wear is kind of like your uniform of who you are as a person. How you dress is an expression of what’s going on within. I was giving one of my mentees a lesson on this. She had to meet with a professional person regarding a financial matter for school. She went to the meeting wearing some ripped up jeans. So I gave her a lesson about dressing. I told her that how you dress determines how people perceive you. I gave her an example as if I was the person who she was coming to meet.
I told her that I wouldn’t take her as serious as I would someone who came into my office who was dressed professionally with their folder in hand. I said, I would still help you because that’s my job, that’s what they pay me to do. But had you come in dress professionally I would help you and go an extra mile, throw in something extra seeing that you mean business because you are dressed in a business-like manner.
I was teaching her to dress to express.
People take you a certain type of way by the way you present yourself. It’s a principle applied professionally where they say “dress to impress” well it also applies personally…dress to express.
I know some may disagree and say they should be able to dress however they want and it shouldn’t have any impact on how they are approached. This is true… you can dress however you wanna dress.
However, this is a principle to be applied if you want to be addressed with a certain type of attention.
As a woman, you should dress modestly. Modestly don’t mean homie.
You can be fly and dress with sex appeal without being sleezy.
You don’t want a man to be attracted to your inner and outer beauty, not your body.
If all he sees is body, he will bypass your beauty.
I know society focuses on outer beauty but as believers, God delights in inner beauty and we should too! Now, I’m not saying a woman shouldn’t beautify her outward appearance. Anybody that knows me, knows that I like to look good and I like to smell good, okay?
I’m talking about dressing in a manner that expresses godliness.
Some women intentionally dress a certain type of way, showing all their goodies, to draw a man. Then try to change him into treating them a certain type of way. When the man don’t follow suit, they have the nerve to get mad.
But you should dress how you wanna be addressed. If you want to be addressed like a classy woman with style and grace, then dress like one. If you don’t want to be addressed like a sex object, than don’t dress like one.
Dress to express how you wanna be addressed!
