Contrary to popular belief, there is no such thing as a Mr or Mrs Right. This is a myth and a myth that has messed people up when it comes to dating and marriage.
There are no Scriptural grounds to support the idea that there is only one person for every person.
Can we be honest? If there are six billion people in the world, and there is supposedly one person who is right for you, what is the likelihood that the two of you will meet up?
That’s a lot of people for it to be just one person.
This belief has caused a lot of people to lose hope. And the bible says in Proverbs 13:12 KJV “hope deferred makes the heart sick.”
The reality is that there are thousands or possibly millions of possibilities in the world. There are many people in the world who are like-minded that share the same interests, character, and values who could meet, date and marry.
SO there are more options than you think. Believing it’s only one person for you is a limited belief system.
If you think limited, you will live limited.
I’ve heard some married people say that their spouse isn’t perfect but they are the perfect person for them. I hate to kill their joy because the person they married was not really the perfect person. The world is populated with many perfect possibles that they could have chosen from. So the person they chose was actually their perfect choice.
There is more than one person who could have potentially been their suitable spouse. This is what makes choosing that one person to be your spouse so special, because you have many options. Think about it, if that person is your only option, it’s nothing really special about that.
But when you have many options, and you say I choose you….that’s special!
And it kinda proves a point that says, “I love you in spite of all the others I could have chosen, you are my choice for love and relationship.”
Let me say this too, just because you chose one suitable person, don't make all the others disappear or vanish away.
I was talking to a friend one day about love and dating and we were talking about the temptation of other people and a couple that she knew. The guy made a comment to the girl about how he was being tempted by being around other girls and they needed to come up with a solution so he wouldn’t fall into temptation.
I said well maybe he shouldn’t be in a relationship because what he is gonna do, stay in the house? People are everywhere so you can’t get away from people. You just have to be mature enough to do what’s right.
Whoever you choose, you will have to choose that person everyday.
Planet earth is full of people. Even after marriage, you will see others that attract you and you will meet others who may have been the perfect choice for you. But as a Christ believer and follower, a person will commit to the one they choose. All the others around won’t matter whether there’s attraction or not.
Besides, it’s immature to allow attraction to drive your actions.
This thought of Mr or Mrs Right is not right. Some people marry in haste and settle, lowering their standards to get with the first reasonable person in sight. They think that this one person is their only option and it's their only opportunity. That is a lie!
There are a number of suitable spouses available for marriage.
This simply means that choosing a mate becomes a matter of choice, not force!
