Sex is a system God created specifically for marriage. But through human sin, sex has been corrupted and devalued. Sexual arousal is a chemical reaction which is why you don’t wanna date and marry someone based on sex. Chemical reactions change like the weather.
Sex is more than just skin to skin, it’s a spiritual act.
When you have sexual intercourse with someone you are actually establishing covenant with them, according to 1 Corinthians 6:16. Everywhere you turn there’s sexual seduction in the world. I had to stop watching certain things because of all the sexual seduction. You gotta be careful because the enemy is sly and slick. What you perceive to just be entertainment may actually be seduction.
God is not against sex, He’s the one that created it. What He is against is the violation of the sexual boundaries He established.
These boundaries were for our good.
The bible tells us to flee fornication. In order to fulfill our highest relational potential, we gotta follow the laws that God gave us. If you can grasp this point, you’ll understand how easy it is to live in a godly way in the area of sexuality. God’s laws are not to restrict us but to protect us.
His boundaries have been established for our preservation, not our irritation.
We think God doesn’t want us to have any fun. But the reality is that God is really trying to protect us. Whenever we break one of His laws or violate one of His principles, we invite spiritual death and suffering. God wants us to live and not die! The bible tells us that the wages of sin is death.
Some of the death that we see happening in the world today is a result of sin.
According to scripture, the origin of sexual sin is from fallen human nature and the human heart. Sexual sin brings defilement. Not only does it defiles the sinner, but it also defiles society.
1 Corinthians 6:13 (AMP) says, “Food is for the stomach and the stomach for food, but God will do away with both of them. The body is not intended for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord is for the body [to save, sanctify, and raise it again because of the sacrifice of the cross].”
Notice, this Scripture doesn’t say that the body is not meant for sex. It simply says that the body is not meant for immoral sex. Your body was actually made for God. This is one of God’s sexual laws, in which He gave us for our own good. Sexual immorality is widespread in the world. Everything is about sex because sex sells.
You can’t justify and rationalize sexual immorality by saying that it feels good. God is not interested in the point of how it feels. What the body was made for is His focal point. It was made for sex, but not for immoral sex. In the same chapter, in verse 18 Paul says,
“Run away from sexual immorality [in any form, whether thought or behavior, whether visual or written]. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the one who is sexually immoral sins against his own body.”
What does it mean to sin outside and against your body? What Paul is saying is that if you sin by stealing from someone or fighting someone or doing some other sinful practice, it’s outside of the body. But when you have sex with someone, a covenant is established because sexual intercourse is a spiritual covenant. This is why even after a break-up, you find it hard to go your separate way because a soul-tie was formed after being sexual.
You gotta break the soul tie from being sexually tied.
If you are being tempted with sexual sin, flee. If you find yourself engaging in sexual sin, flee and then seek forgiveness. Repent and turn away from it. Sexual immorality brings punishment and has no place in the Christian life. Sexual sins are often life-dominating, but they can be broken through the power and grace of Jesus Christ.
This is why the special work of the Holy Spirit called sanctification is needed. Flesh can’t conquer flesh.
Sanctification has a two-fold meaning:
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It’s positional which means being set apart for God and for God’s purpose.
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It’s practical which means progressively growing in righteous living.
This is a necessary process within a Christian.
As you rely on Holy Spirit, He will enable you to be sanctified from sexual sin.
The process and production of sanctification will empower you to abide by God’s spiritual system of sex in your relationship.
